Just thoughts

I don't even know where to start with this post. I feel like I need to write it down because I have this neatly placed bandage over a wound I will always carry. Unintentionally a member of my family ripped the bandage off and I felt the searing pain that will happen from time to time throughout my life. She wrote her beliefs about abortion in a public forum which is her right to do. It caught me off guard it was in a place I didn't expect to find it and it was illuded that anyone to make such a decision is the destroyer of peace. Not only did I love my child and watch my belly expand I also named her and had hopes and dreams for her. I was only physically her mother for around 20 weeks but in those 20 weeks I was a mother to a very real person. And I had to make a very, very difficult decision. The fact is I made a rather selfish decision I made a decision that I knew in the end would allow me to heal. I made a decision to protect myself. My baby was going to die. I watched her slowed labored movements on the monitor in the ER. Her fate was quite clear even to my untrained eye. I was at risk. These were the facts plain and simple. I knew that quite simply delivering her in a cold sterile ER and seeing her sweet face only to have her taken from me was more than I could possibly bear. I knew it would destroy me. I knew that sitting around and waiting for my body to suffocate her was not fair. Not fair to me and I believe not fair to her. So I played god. I made the decision to abort her. It is a decision I have to live with forever. I was not awarded a lot of time to make the decision and I was scared. So very scared. On top of being scared for myself I was scared for my family and especially my daughter. The loss of a birthmother and an adoptive mother I thought was more than she could possibly deal with. Sometimes things are not black or white but the murkiest shades of gray. I do not think my decision makes me a terrible monster. I don't think I am the destroyer of peace. You may think that in my shoes you would have made a different decision but unless you've walked in my shoes quite frankly you have no idea. I would not wish anyone to walk that path. I believe that only one in the end should pass judgement.